Baby, just let it go….
I wonder how many folks out here are holding on to a dead relationship. You know who they are. One person has moved on, and the other person just won't let that death grip go, or both folks are trying to salvage a ship that sank the same night the Exxon Valdez did. They just don’t want to admit that it's over.
The bow is cracked wide open, baby. Just let it go…
I know it's hard to let go of a love you thought was solid, but sometimes you have to see it for what it is. It may have been something YOU wanted to last forever. That other person may not have been thinking long term. It may have been a case of something happened that damaged the relationship for good. You can't convince that person to come back if they've decided to move on. If they want to go on, LET THEM!! If they really want to be with you they WON'T LEAVE. Acting out like you're going to fall apart without them doesn't do anything except cement their thinking and make them move further away from you. Never let yourself appear desperate to someone who doesn't want you. You're giving them more power over you than they ever deserved! Your desperation is not going to change their mind. It may even make them dislike you.
Love and respect yourself first, baby. Just let it go…
Now there are some folks out there who have leaned on someone during a rough time in their life, and because that person was there for them they've 'fallen in love' with that person. That ain't love, sugar. That's over-inflated gratitude (translate: INFATUATION). Nothing wrong with being appreciative of a supportive friend. We all need a support system from time to time in life. The important thing is that we must not confuse being thankful with being in love. Now I'm not saying that real love can't happen from a situation like that, but more often than not it doesn't. The worse thing that can happen during a time like this is having sex with the person who is being supportive. All of those emotions that person is going through related to their sitch will transfer into that love mode because they are looking for comfort. I know this from experience. It NEVER works out. Especially when the person you've fallen "in love" with aint even yourns.
That 'P' aint got your name, rank, and serial number on it, boo-boo. Let it go…
Sadly, a lot of this comes from folks' fear of being alone. Sadder still, it seems to affect women more than men. More and more we associate 'happiness' with having someone physical to attach that happiness to. That ain't how it works, love. Happiness starts within each of us. The key is to look inside ourselves, find that happiness, and bring it out. There is no magic solution to it either. Sometimes finding happiness within yourself takes time and takes LEARNING YOURSELF FIRST. Once you've found what really makes YOU happy, then you can share that happiness with someone else. Happiness will never be found in holding on to a relation "ship" that has set sail.
Say "bon voyage," baby. Just let it go…
2 comments:
Preach will you? The shame of it is that the people who need to see this won't and if they do, they'll think that someone else is the one who needs to see it.
This is the truth wrapped in nothing but space and opportunity. I finally "let go" and it happened in the weirdest way...but thank God it happened.
When you said that someone who wants you won't leave...that's the truth. True love doesn't fade nor is it easily persuaded to leave. Gonna have to share this, too. Keep it up...all my posts will just be you ladies' blogs. lmao
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